“I want a fairy party!” says 40-year old mother.
“Do you do parties for grown-ups too?” we’ve been asked more often than you might imagine.
And believe me, we get it! Fairy parties are one of our favourite things.
These questions are usually asked in a quiet voice out of hearing of the children, like a naughty secret that has to be kept quiet. Don’t tell the kids we like to play too!
Likely it’s easier to have fun without the responsibility to look after the kids, or perhaps there’s a fear that if grown-ups play with the kids or are silly, they won’t be respected by them, and the role of parent or guardian comes first. And we completely agree – parental responsibilities do come before being a friend. However, we feel certain that play is still ok, and in fact, it can be a joyful and connective part of being with children (and don’t tell the kids, but it can help to get them to do what you want!)
Recently, Bryony, our human fairy friend, went to a lake with a friend of hers and met Sienna, an eight-year old girl who was there with her mother. Bryony, Lizzy, and Sienna played games and had yoga competitions of who could hold the tree pose longest, and whoever lost had to jump in the (freezing cold) lake. It was so much fun, and Sienna clearly had a wonderful time. “They’re my friends!” she told her mom, and kept asking to stay longer. Bryony and Lizzy taught Sienna a dancing game that Sienna loved so much, she did it with her mom and made sure she had it memorized so she wouldn’t forget.
Bryony and Lizzy had a wonderful time too, and glowed for hours after, like they had a big cup of warm sunshine.
There was something about playing with grown-ups that seemed very valuable for Sienna – she not only learned new games, but she got to see that grown-ups can have fun too, and she loved it.
Kids learn through modelling, and Bryony and Lizzy were modelling joy, humour, play, fun, and respect. It was fun, yet there were still clear limits of when it was time to stop.
We have often seen kids become so enthralled whenever a grown-up participates in a fairy party – whether it is to get some face painting, or play the part of the dragon – they absolutely love it. It gets all their attention, and it is not only fun, but it makes everyone happier than a pixie in a rose bush.
And it just may be, that when children are happy, when adults are happy, and everyone feels loving and joyous, that everyone is more likely to respect each other as well.
Life can be so serious. Play reminds us all of the joy that is available every moment, and playing with children is a very fast way to open that door.
So, open that door! Play! Give yourself permission to have fun and be silly! Trust us, you will love it. And if you already do, fantastic! You are an honorary fairy, and that never goes away, no matter your age.
And by the way, we absolutely do fairy parties for grown-ups. : )
With Love and Fairy Dust,